Many self-injurious, suicidal, or homicidal behaviors targetting their ex-lovers upon breakup, divorce, or even revelation of an affair occur regardless of their educational or ethnic backgrounds. We must study developmental psychology – objection relations to understand the psychology behind these behaviors.
According to Ghada Alsharif, Staff Reporter at Tronto Star, as of August 30, 2022, the fifth and sixth women have been allegedly killed by an intimate partner or family member in Toronto this year.
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In 2020, a Toronto neurosurgeon murdered his physician wife, who requested divorce after years of separate life during marriage.
In 2008, Jodi Arias in the U.S. butchered her ex-boyfriend to get revenge on their breakup. His body was found with 27 stab wounds and a headshot.
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Though we do not know the details of the childhood backgrounds of the perpetrators above, If you feel intense fear of separation or breakup with your intimate lovers, you can suspect your original fear of being separated or abandoned by your primary caregiver, such as your mother, when you were an infant, especially before you were one year old.
Many psychoanalytic scholars speculate that the experience of unwanted or premature separation of infants by their primary caregivers amounts to the experience of life and death in the adults enough to murder themselves and their partner since they still carry the painful subconscious memory into adulthood.